What You Focus on Expands

There is a great quote that reads like this: When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.

Think about this for a moment. When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.

What does this even mean?

It means that it is not our outer circumstance that shapes the way we think, feel, act and ultimately live, though it is our perception of these outer circumstances and the lens which we filter them through.

In the Culture of More, we get stuck in a place of dissatisfaction, as soon as one goal is reached we are immediately onto the next one without taking time to celebrate what just took place.

If your focus is always coming from a place of “I need this and then life will be perfect”, the proverbial carrot on the stick will always be just a few inches further.

When we take the time to place our focus on what we do have, what we do have will begin to expand. When we look at situations that may be perceived as misfortune, we can also look at them and appreciate the gifts, lessons and messages that live beneath them.

But if I’m just focusing on what I do have right now, I’ll never reach my goals!”

What if it were the opposite? What if focusing on what you are fortunate enough to have right now just made you a magnet to create more good things in your life?

Regardless of what the day brings today, take just a few moments here and there to appreciate something that maybe you’ve gotten “used to” over the years. This could be someone in your family, your house, your vehicle, the clothes in your closet, the fact that we can breathe clean oxygen and drink clean water, the food in your fridge. Anything.

Because when you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.

Alignment vs. Grinding

Aligning yourself with where it is you want to go by questioning and removing the beliefs that are keeping you from getting there

It is amazing how many of us are blindly working our tails off, doing our best to make sure we’re busy, without taking the time to really make sure we’re in alignment with who we are and where we want to go.

Aimlessly working hard for the sake of working hard will definitely make you tired, but without a grand picture of where you’re aiming, sometimes it is easy to get caught up doing small tasks for the sake of feeling productive. Sometimes the most productive thing we can do is to do nothing other than question the beliefs we are still holding onto.

In this episode of the Alignment Club Podcast, we discuss the art of taking time to align yourself with your goals, dreams and aspirations before taking massive action. This is the fastest, most simplistic way to get the results you want in a manner that will not bring you into complete exhaustion.

Lastly, congrats to Brenda Campbell on winning a 1-on-1 EFT Tapping Session! EFT is undoubtedly the most effective way to create rapid, radical change in our lives by removing the subconscious and emotional blockages that keep us from going to the next level.

Stepping into the Flow of Life

Are you swimming with the current, or trying your best to fight against it?

Getting into the flow of life is a topic that some people will feel a great deal of resistance to. This idea is often perceived as “giving up” or “doing nothing”. While it may be easy to judge this concept, it goes much deeper than the idea of giving up and becoming stagnant.

I am sure you have heard the term “go with the flow”, this is something my mom used to repeat to me constantly as a child. A great deal of years later, I am finally figuring out what it means.

Getting into the flow of life, means surrendering to a force greater than yourself, and capitalizing on the opportunities that are in alignment with your values and desires along the way.

Clarity is Power.

Living a life of surrender, as Michael A. Singer calls it in his groundbreaking book The Surrender Experiment, means taking what life gives you and pursuing it to the greatest of your abilities. Oftentimes it is the ego that has a very difficult time with the idea of letting go of control.

The first step in living a life in which you align with what you want, and take action on the opportunities that are also in alignment with what you want, is offering clarity, on some level, about whatever life situation it is you would like.

The main reason for succumbing to “shiny object syndrome”, or feeling generally scattered or lost, is due to a lack of knowing which direction it is one wants to aim.

If you don’t know where you’re going, you might not like where you end up is a powerful and relative quote in the process of conspiring with a power beyond yourself to create a new life scenario.

Offer a Clear Intention of what you want.

Being able to offer the intention, then saying “I now turn this desire over to something greater than myself to help me create this in the fastest, most effortless way possible.”

Sometimes you will be given circumstances in which you feel like you are being given the short end of the stick, though this is often a sign that you need to learn, or let go of something.

For example, if someone says they want to become a millionaire, then can’t figure out why they get laid off from their current job position, maybe this is the perfect first step in learning how to increase their income in assisting them to fulfill their goal?

Many of these “coincidences” receive little to no credit, but when you live from a place of deep inner knowingness that life is always happening for you, not to you, you begin to harness a power that is much greater than yourself.

We often hear of the Law of Attraction, which states “that which is like unto itself is drawn”. As you continue to offer the intention of what it is that you want in your life, and continue to take action when you are given and opportunity, you will see over and over again that life is truly conspiring in your favour.

To go further into this subject, listen below to the most recent episode of The Alignment Club Podcast:

Are you Playing to Win?

An important question to ask yourself in pursuit of that which you desire, is whether you are playing to win or playing not to lose

One of the most paralyzing mistakes I have made along the way is getting caught up in something called “playing not to lose”. Playing not to lose is when you take all the actions that make you look busy, but really you are running on the hamster wheel and truly getting nowhere.

Playing not to lose, as T.Harv Eker notes, is like playing a game of hockey with six goalies. Playing not to lose is when you refuse to take risks because you do not trust that everything always works out. Playing not to lose is not allowing yourself to open up because you’ve become extremely comfortable in your current situation; even if you know it’s not sustainable.

Playing to win, on the other hand, is playing full out. Playing to win is allowing yourself to take risks, it’s allowing yourself to step into the unknown, it’s allowing yourself to do bold things while carrying a deep sense of knowing that every time you leap, a safety net will appear for you.

I once read a quote that read “it is hard to get an A while you’re scared of getting an F”.

This ties in perfectly to the theme of playing to win vs. playing not to lose. Ask yourself, at the end of the day, “what do I really have to be afraid of?”

The answer is nothing. The ego loves to come up with things be fearful of, reasons why we shouldn’t trust ourselves, reasons why we should avoid any and all potential pain while staying buried within our comfort zones.

As fun as it sounds, it is going to lead to a gnawing feeling of wanting to do more with your life, until you allow the inner voice to come through and do the thing that you really want to be doing.

Make today amazing, do something you wouldn’t normally do, open yourself to new and creative ways of living while trusting that every time you make a leap, you are fully and completely taken care of.

Alignment Club Podcast Episode #9: ‘Playing to Win vs. Playing not to Lose’ is available below:

Stepping into Creativity

A giant step towards living a life of alignment is knowing how to tap into creative resources

There are few things better than a flood of creative emotion, a spark that arises from within that becomes so strong it is almost impossible to ignore. These are the moments to take massive action in the direction of this premonition, and often where great results are achieved.

However.

Creativity doesn’t always show itself at the snap of our fingers. Sometimes creativity is buried beneath a plethora of lower emotions such as fear, worry, anxiety, despair or envy.

When was the last time you were in complete fight-or-flight mode, and sat down thinking “wow, I have never felt so creative in my life!”

Being in survival mode is great when you are trying to quickly escape a predator, trying to get your head above water (literally), or making a fast decision to treat a sudden medical emergency. It is not so wonderful when you are sitting down to do creative work.

Moving from fear to creativity

Allowing yourselves to move from a fearful state into a relaxed, creative mode often starts with just that: allowing. Giving ourselves permission to move from a place of scarcity, fear and urgency into our most creative selves begins when we get over the idea that we have to constantly be pushing, working and creating resistance.

One thing you can do right now to move from fear into creativity is to stop trying to be creative! Get over the idea that you have to push to be creative, and go do something that brings you joy. As you move into a joyful, playful state you notice yourself start to relax. From a relaxed state, creativity becomes natural.

Listen below to the latest episode of the Alignment Club Podcast, “3 Exercises to Access Creativity:

Doing Things that Scare You

As your comfort zone begins to expand, bit by bit your life becomes filled with more excitement and joy

At one point or another, we all feel the feelings of stagnation, even boredom with our current circumstances. This doesn’t mean we don’t have plenty to be thankful for in any given moment, it just means that maybe we are starting to feel too much comfort or repetition in our daily actions.

What’s one way to break this pattern, create new results and condition yourself to become more resilient? Simply by doing things that freak you out a bit.

When we are (and we never should have valid reason to be) bored, it is often because we have dug ourselves so deep into our comfort zone that we don’t feel like doing anything outside of it.

If you are reading this thinking about how boring your day is going to be today, why don’t you go ask a random person if they want to go for coffee with you? Or email your boss telling him that you quit and aren’t going to be coming in tomorrow, or ever?

Surely these things would cure boredom, yes? Of course they would, but the reason we don’t do them is because we like taking action that is measurable and somewhat within our zone of safety.

This is the cool part:

What happens next after you decide to announce your business, ask the person on a date, apply for the new position, or book the plane ticket?

Not much, aside from a small, medium or large rush of excitement accompanied by a sense of “I can’t believe I just did that!”

The world keeps turning, maybe you pull your first client on the first day or someone messages you and says “I honestly don’t know why you waited so long, you’re so talented”. Maybe your boss replies with an absolute no, or an absolute yes to your request to work remotely for a year.

Regardless of the answer, who cares? You did the thing that scares you, and now you could go back to do it again without it feeling so terrifying.

Take a moment, ask yourself to come up with five things that would be so terrifying to get started on today, then pick one and simply go for it.

When you start using fear as a go-signal rather than a stop light, life becomes exhilarating.

Listen to the latest episode of the Alignment Club Podcast below:

Make a Powerful Choice to Align in 2020

The life, the career, the partner you want, they come available when you choose to stay open to possibility

As we enter the year of 2020, take a moment to look back on the previous decade. Who did you become? What did you choose to add into your life, or cut out of your life because it no longer served you? What were the highlights, and what would you have done differently if you were given the choice?

Our lives are a result of the thoughts we think and the actions we take. The actions we take are our own personal choices, actions that we are completely responsible for.

We all make choices that we wish we could go back and re-do, but the fun part about life is that there are no do-overs. Everything you are living with right now has been a result of your choices, take a moment to accept that they have been perfect, and that you are exactly where you need to be right now.

Make the choice to spend the next decade living for you

What does it feel like when you look at your current life situation? Does it feel light and fun, or does it feel heavy and stressful? How does work feel to you right now, are you doing something that you truly enjoy doing?

If the answer is no, that is perfect, because you are at least in a place now of knowing what you do not want for yourself. Abraham-Hicks states that knowing what you don’t want is a powerful part of discovering what it is that you do want.

If you aren’t living the life you truly want, then who’s life are you living? Are you staying at a job simply because you receive a bi-weekly pay check, even though it may not be the amount of money you want to be making? Are you staying in a position that pleases everybody but yourself?

Good news: If the people you’re living to please right now don’t support you when you choose to make a change in your life, then it is a reflection of their own judgements, not your flaws.

People that are supposed to be in your life, these people will support you no matter what. These people are the ones that want to see you grow and expand, not shrink back and contract into a smaller version of yourself.

Again, commit to living the next ten years in alignment with the life situation that you truly want for yourself

Life happens fast, nothing is to be taken for granted, time is the most valuable asset we have. Even if you lost all your money today, you can easily make it back. The same cannot be said about time.

Ask yourself, “what do I want the next ten years to look like? Who am I as I enter the year 2030? Where do I live, who are my friends, what does my work look like, how much fun am I having?”

Find this vision, create a plan of action, and love every moment along the way.

Leave Your Limitations in 2019

Allowing yourself to be responsible for making a quantum leap in the decade to come

As I write this, it is the final morning of this decade in which I can sit and write while watching the snow fly outside and enjoying the dead silence of the early morning.

As we transition into a new decade of life, a question that I have been asking myself a lot is “if I knew there were no chance of failure, what would I want the following decade to look like?”

I love the words of Anthony Robbins which read: “Most people overestimate what they can do in a year, and underestimate what they can do in 2 or 3 decades.”

The plague of short-term thinking withholds us from seeing a larger, broader, more expanded vision for what we want for our lives.

Constantly scrambling to make this month’s rent will keep someone stuck in a scarcity loop of merely trying to survive, a far cry from doing work as your most creative self.

If you want the next ten years to look better than the previous ten years, ask yourself “what do I need to obtain, and what must I let go of?”

Reverting back to Michael Beckwith’s “Life Visioning Process” (which I would recommend trying at least once before planning out your next ten years), knowing not just what you must become, but what you must be willing to release, is a vital step in creating the life you really want.

If you said “I want to 10x my income in the next year”, your brain will probably come up with some funny answers that will probably sound something like this:

  • “10x your income? You can’t even 2x your income! You don’t have the resources for that. Let’s be realistic, let’s keep things safe and familiar, the decade after this is the one we will really crush it!”
  • “Don’t even go there, imagine what your friends would think of you? You’d be left in the dust, plagued as a ‘dreamer'”
  • “Look at where you are right now, how on earth do you think you could increase your income ten fold? You can barely make rent! Let’s get back to our regular duties and way of doing things”

Understand that the primal part of your brain has one job and one job only: To keep you from dying.

This is why when you tell yourself you’d like to accomplish something, but refuse to take immediate, inspired, aligned action, you will often talk yourself out of it and return to your regular habitual actions.

The more we can keep things safe and familiar, the more the primal part of our brain thinks it’s doing the most amazing job in the world.

The only problem with this is that greatness does not take place from the safe and familiar

When you are faced with these self-imposed limitations, ask yourself one question: “Is the journey I am considering embarking on going to hurt me physically, and greatly increase my chances of death?”

If the answer is yes, then consider it again. If the answer is no, then push past the fear and know that it is just trying to help you stay alive. Every time you take bold, inspired action despite the fear, you stretch your comfort zone bit by bit.

The more your stretch your comfort zone bit by bit, the more confident you feel in accomplishing things that used to be hard.

The more confident you feel in accomplishing things that used to be hard, the more you learn to appreciate your own abilities, and ultimately appreciate yourself.

The more you appreciate your own abilities, and ultimately appreciate yourself, the happier you become.

The happier you become, the better your life is!

This is why it is vital to leave some of these self-imposed limitations in the current decade, promising yourself not to carry them through to 2020 and beyond.

We are always up against our most negative self. Training yourself to push past limitations that you created by buying into a belief of lack, that there is only so much to go around, is going to create rapid change in your life.

As you create rapid change in your life, others around you feel inspired to do the same.

Right now, no matter what (if you’re driving please don’t partake in this, also stop reading right now), grab a pen and a piece of paper.

Write out 5 things you want to accomplish in the next 10 years, but make sure all of them scare you at least a bit.

Never set goals within your own comfort zone, setting goals only from what you can see as “realistic” is a perfect recipe for change that takes place at the speed of molasses.

Push yourself, create new boundaries, do what it is that makes you happy on the inside, give more than you’ve ever given, and leave your limitations in 2019.

Lastly, enjoy the most recent instalment of the Alignment Club Podcast below:

Destroying Limiting Beliefs in 2020

What are the beliefs that are standing in the way of what you want?

Oftentimes when we begin to dig for what it is that’s holding us back, we search for the answer outside of ourselves. Aiming for a new career, a new job, a new friend group, a new this or that. While change is necessary in growing, oftentimes we carry the same beliefs to the new situation, which is not a long-term strategy for change.

So, how do we change the belief system that shapes our very existence?

First we must do the hard part, which is finding and acknowledging the beliefs that might be in the way of our successes.

Notice the world “acknowledge”, for when we push against a belief by becoming angry or frustrated about how we have never changed it, or how badly we wish it didn’t exist, the belief will continue to push back and create resistance.

Acknowledgment of a limiting belief is the first step to replacing it with a new, healthy belief system.

Example.

I held onto a belief for a long time that one’s “work” in life must consist of one thing and one thing only, and to expand over multiple industries would be taboo.

Is this true? No. In fact, limiting yourself to one business or occupation is just that: limiting yourself.

Because Bono was known for being the face of the band U2, does that mean that he shouldn’t have an investment fund? Of course not.

Is George Clooney wrong for having his own line of tequila? Also no.

Because Serena Williams is one of the world’s greatest tennis players, does that mean she should be banished from the fashion industry? Another no.

With the belief that we are confined to one type of business, one industry or one line of work, how likely are we to grow and expand into more of what we want to be?

The answer is not very likely.

It took me a long time to acknowledge the fact that this belief existed, but as soon as I did it was as though a veil had been lifted and I was able to see things in a whole new light. Is it totally okay to expand your work across multiple industries?

Of course.

Think for a second about a belief that might be limiting for you in some way. Here are a few examples to get your brain jogging:

  • “Hard work is the only path to success”
  • “I’m not qualified for it”
  • “I don’t know enough”
  • “I could never learn how to do that”
  • “Money is hard to come by”
  • “I am limited to the resources I can see right now”
  • “In order to make a good living, I must be working 40 hours per week”
  • “More hours = More money”
  • “I’m too old”
  • “I’m too young”
  • “People in my family or friend circle wouldn’t approve of me”
  • “Maybe I won’t be loved”
  • “I could never make a living doing something I love”
  • “Getting rich is for those people”

Think, think, think.

The good news? Once you acknowledge and replace the belief, you are moving quickly towards that which you desire.

To replace my limiting belief about having one line of work, I would repeatedly write down the following statement:

“The only limits that exist are those which I have created for myself”

This makes facing some of your beliefs humorous on some level.

In the year upcoming, focus on expanding your thinking and deleting these old, outdated beliefs that no longer serve you.

While you’re here, the latest episode of the Alignment Club Podcast covers this very subject. Make today spectacular:

Everything is Created Twice

Learning to consciously choose our thoughts, and what we want to deliberately create for our lives

Have you ever been in the middle of a down spiral in life, wondering exactly how you got there? In contrary, have you ever been enjoying a moment of such bliss that you couldn’t fathom how you could’ve possibly been met with a new level of fortune in such a short period of time?

As Stephen Covey noted in 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, these situations occur because everything is created twice.

Every famous painting, every New York Times bestseller, every #1 song, The Great Wall of China, the Empire State Building, the New York Stock Exchange, the money (or lack thereof) of money in your bank account, the Mona Lisa, the breakfast you ate this morning, this blog post, the house you live in, the fact that you chose that house to live in and not the one across the street, my daughter who is walking a piece of wrapping paper around the living room like it is a dog attached to a leash…

All of these things were created first by thought before they came to be a part of your experience.

It doesn’t mean that you were consciously choosing to focus on these things, they may have been a part of your subconscious thought loop that plays over and over in the background, even when you’re sleeping.

So… is this a blessing or a curse?

Now that you understand that you have the ability to consciously choose what you focus on, this realization can fall into the ‘blessing’ folder. Human beings are the only living things that have the ability to consciously choose what they focus on at any given time.

Are you having a hard time with money? Pay attention to what you focus on on a regular basis. Are your thoughts on the lack of money in your bank account? Not many people have ever obtained riches by constantly focusing on, complaining about and giving energy to a constant worry about their upcoming bills. Worrying about money and creating new, enjoyable ways to earn are exercising two very different parts of your mind.

What about your relationship? Do you focus on what you enjoy about the other person, and dismiss their flaws while loving the fact that they dismiss yours? Maybe it is your constant attempt to create a relationship that is keeping you from having the one that you want? There is nothing fun, playful or attractive about someone who is giving off the vibration of “please be with me, I am so lonely and need someone to make me feel okay. Please!”

When the down spiral of self-limiting thoughts begins, make the conscious choice to choose a better thought.

What if the next time you had an idea for a great product or service, you took immediate action and changed your life forever? What if you decided today that you will end bad habits and change the way you and your family live for good?

Condition this new habit of paying close attention to what you’re thinking about and focusing on in periods of low energy. Next time you create a future worst case scenario in your head, ask yourself “is this exactly how I’d like this situation to play out in real life?”

Everything is created twice. Be diligent in what you create in your mind as the more attention it receives, the closer it gets to becoming a reality.

On the topic of thinking, want to start thinking bigger? Listen to the most recent episode of the Alignment Club Podcast below: