Are you Playing to Win?

An important question to ask yourself in pursuit of that which you desire, is whether you are playing to win or playing not to lose

One of the most paralyzing mistakes I have made along the way is getting caught up in something called “playing not to lose”. Playing not to lose is when you take all the actions that make you look busy, but really you are running on the hamster wheel and truly getting nowhere.

Playing not to lose, as T.Harv Eker notes, is like playing a game of hockey with six goalies. Playing not to lose is when you refuse to take risks because you do not trust that everything always works out. Playing not to lose is not allowing yourself to open up because you’ve become extremely comfortable in your current situation; even if you know it’s not sustainable.

Playing to win, on the other hand, is playing full out. Playing to win is allowing yourself to take risks, it’s allowing yourself to step into the unknown, it’s allowing yourself to do bold things while carrying a deep sense of knowing that every time you leap, a safety net will appear for you.

I once read a quote that read “it is hard to get an A while you’re scared of getting an F”.

This ties in perfectly to the theme of playing to win vs. playing not to lose. Ask yourself, at the end of the day, “what do I really have to be afraid of?”

The answer is nothing. The ego loves to come up with things be fearful of, reasons why we shouldn’t trust ourselves, reasons why we should avoid any and all potential pain while staying buried within our comfort zones.

As fun as it sounds, it is going to lead to a gnawing feeling of wanting to do more with your life, until you allow the inner voice to come through and do the thing that you really want to be doing.

Make today amazing, do something you wouldn’t normally do, open yourself to new and creative ways of living while trusting that every time you make a leap, you are fully and completely taken care of.

Alignment Club Podcast Episode #9: ‘Playing to Win vs. Playing not to Lose’ is available below:

Leave Your Limitations in 2019

Allowing yourself to be responsible for making a quantum leap in the decade to come

As I write this, it is the final morning of this decade in which I can sit and write while watching the snow fly outside and enjoying the dead silence of the early morning.

As we transition into a new decade of life, a question that I have been asking myself a lot is “if I knew there were no chance of failure, what would I want the following decade to look like?”

I love the words of Anthony Robbins which read: “Most people overestimate what they can do in a year, and underestimate what they can do in 2 or 3 decades.”

The plague of short-term thinking withholds us from seeing a larger, broader, more expanded vision for what we want for our lives.

Constantly scrambling to make this month’s rent will keep someone stuck in a scarcity loop of merely trying to survive, a far cry from doing work as your most creative self.

If you want the next ten years to look better than the previous ten years, ask yourself “what do I need to obtain, and what must I let go of?”

Reverting back to Michael Beckwith’s “Life Visioning Process” (which I would recommend trying at least once before planning out your next ten years), knowing not just what you must become, but what you must be willing to release, is a vital step in creating the life you really want.

If you said “I want to 10x my income in the next year”, your brain will probably come up with some funny answers that will probably sound something like this:

  • “10x your income? You can’t even 2x your income! You don’t have the resources for that. Let’s be realistic, let’s keep things safe and familiar, the decade after this is the one we will really crush it!”
  • “Don’t even go there, imagine what your friends would think of you? You’d be left in the dust, plagued as a ‘dreamer'”
  • “Look at where you are right now, how on earth do you think you could increase your income ten fold? You can barely make rent! Let’s get back to our regular duties and way of doing things”

Understand that the primal part of your brain has one job and one job only: To keep you from dying.

This is why when you tell yourself you’d like to accomplish something, but refuse to take immediate, inspired, aligned action, you will often talk yourself out of it and return to your regular habitual actions.

The more we can keep things safe and familiar, the more the primal part of our brain thinks it’s doing the most amazing job in the world.

The only problem with this is that greatness does not take place from the safe and familiar

When you are faced with these self-imposed limitations, ask yourself one question: “Is the journey I am considering embarking on going to hurt me physically, and greatly increase my chances of death?”

If the answer is yes, then consider it again. If the answer is no, then push past the fear and know that it is just trying to help you stay alive. Every time you take bold, inspired action despite the fear, you stretch your comfort zone bit by bit.

The more your stretch your comfort zone bit by bit, the more confident you feel in accomplishing things that used to be hard.

The more confident you feel in accomplishing things that used to be hard, the more you learn to appreciate your own abilities, and ultimately appreciate yourself.

The more you appreciate your own abilities, and ultimately appreciate yourself, the happier you become.

The happier you become, the better your life is!

This is why it is vital to leave some of these self-imposed limitations in the current decade, promising yourself not to carry them through to 2020 and beyond.

We are always up against our most negative self. Training yourself to push past limitations that you created by buying into a belief of lack, that there is only so much to go around, is going to create rapid change in your life.

As you create rapid change in your life, others around you feel inspired to do the same.

Right now, no matter what (if you’re driving please don’t partake in this, also stop reading right now), grab a pen and a piece of paper.

Write out 5 things you want to accomplish in the next 10 years, but make sure all of them scare you at least a bit.

Never set goals within your own comfort zone, setting goals only from what you can see as “realistic” is a perfect recipe for change that takes place at the speed of molasses.

Push yourself, create new boundaries, do what it is that makes you happy on the inside, give more than you’ve ever given, and leave your limitations in 2019.

Lastly, enjoy the most recent instalment of the Alignment Club Podcast below:

Following Through on your New Year’s Resolution

New Year’s Resolutions are seemingly so simply, why aren’t they easy?

For the first time EVER… I managed to follow through on a New Year’s Resolution. It was a very simple goal of reading 52 books in 2019. With just a couple left in 2019, unless I lose my eyesight or get hit by a semi I am excited to say that I will easily meet this goal.

After (literally) a lifetime of watching my New Years goals go down the drain by the end of January, going into 2019 I looked at exactly what it was that was holding me back. Why did it seem so difficult to follow through on my resolutions, even if they were something incredibly simple?

The fear of not following through and the fear of letting myself down were the driving forces in simply giving up before I would even allow myself to get started. Don’t talk yourself out of that which will close the gap on getting where you want to go.

In my experience for 2019’s New Years Resolution, the key was repetition. Consistently reminding myself of my goal, why it was important, and that it was actually wildly possible were the simple steps that kept me going.

The result? A new sense of confidence, and a whole lot of new knowledge from reading a giant stack of books on happiness, personal development, entrepreneurship, investing/trading, spirituality, quantum physics, business and human behavior.

Listen to the most recent episode of The Alignment Club Podcast below, and make the decision that you will follow through on your goals for 2020.

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