Life Driving you Crazy? How to find Inner Peace

Wiring yourself to be at peace will rapidly improve the quality of your life

Happiness, peace, joy and fulfilment. These are likely four of the most sought-after feelings that drive human behaviour, and they are things we are trained to look for outside of ourself.

In this episode of the Alignment Club Podcast, we discuss the beauty of finding peace within yourself, regardless the situation. We cannot control what life gives to us, but we are always able to control the way in which we do or don’t react.

Nothing has the power to influence the way that we feel until we give it permission. People will cut us off in traffic, look down upon our vocations, tell us are wasting our time, criticize the way we do things; these are reflections of them, not us.

When there is an inner wound that has not been healed, it will be manifested in physical form by lashing out at others or trying to cut them down.

Don’t take things personally, stay in your own lane and thank every person or situation that comes against you as a reminder that you are in control of your life and how you want it to unfold.

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A Simple Habit for Ending your day in Gratitude

A bedtime gratitude exercise that everybody has time for

In the famous book The Science of Getting Rich by Wallace D. Wattles, he explains that “many people who order their lives rightly in all other ways are kept in poverty by their lack of gratitude.”

Being grateful for what we do have makes us a channel for more good to flow into our life. When we disregard all of the things working in our favour, even if they are disguised as difficulties, we seem to continually attract more struggle into our lives.

A powerful way to close out your day is this incredibly simple exercise that not only opens your eyes to the good in your life, but also forces your subconscious mind to continue scanning for more things to be grateful for.

When we are grateful, we are not in fear.

Closing out your day in a thankful manner

Grab a journal or a blank piece of paper and write today’s date at the top of the page. Next, write the following sentence:

“My three favourite parts about today were…”

Even if you felt like you had the worst day in existence, they could be as simple as “I woke up and said hi to my spouse, my coffee machine worked another day, I was able to put food on my table once again”

Even on the most difficult of days, being grateful puts you in a place of more than enough, and in short time you will continue to be met with more situations in alignment with abundance.

It’s that simple, and when you wake up tomorrow you can watch this video to start you day the same way!

Stepping into the Flow of Life

Are you swimming with the current, or trying your best to fight against it?

Getting into the flow of life is a topic that some people will feel a great deal of resistance to. This idea is often perceived as “giving up” or “doing nothing”. While it may be easy to judge this concept, it goes much deeper than the idea of giving up and becoming stagnant.

I am sure you have heard the term “go with the flow”, this is something my mom used to repeat to me constantly as a child. A great deal of years later, I am finally figuring out what it means.

Getting into the flow of life, means surrendering to a force greater than yourself, and capitalizing on the opportunities that are in alignment with your values and desires along the way.

Clarity is Power.

Living a life of surrender, as Michael A. Singer calls it in his groundbreaking book The Surrender Experiment, means taking what life gives you and pursuing it to the greatest of your abilities. Oftentimes it is the ego that has a very difficult time with the idea of letting go of control.

The first step in living a life in which you align with what you want, and take action on the opportunities that are also in alignment with what you want, is offering clarity, on some level, about whatever life situation it is you would like.

The main reason for succumbing to “shiny object syndrome”, or feeling generally scattered or lost, is due to a lack of knowing which direction it is one wants to aim.

If you don’t know where you’re going, you might not like where you end up is a powerful and relative quote in the process of conspiring with a power beyond yourself to create a new life scenario.

Offer a Clear Intention of what you want.

Being able to offer the intention, then saying “I now turn this desire over to something greater than myself to help me create this in the fastest, most effortless way possible.”

Sometimes you will be given circumstances in which you feel like you are being given the short end of the stick, though this is often a sign that you need to learn, or let go of something.

For example, if someone says they want to become a millionaire, then can’t figure out why they get laid off from their current job position, maybe this is the perfect first step in learning how to increase their income in assisting them to fulfill their goal?

Many of these “coincidences” receive little to no credit, but when you live from a place of deep inner knowingness that life is always happening for you, not to you, you begin to harness a power that is much greater than yourself.

We often hear of the Law of Attraction, which states “that which is like unto itself is drawn”. As you continue to offer the intention of what it is that you want in your life, and continue to take action when you are given and opportunity, you will see over and over again that life is truly conspiring in your favour.

To go further into this subject, listen below to the most recent episode of The Alignment Club Podcast:

Are you Playing to Win?

An important question to ask yourself in pursuit of that which you desire, is whether you are playing to win or playing not to lose

One of the most paralyzing mistakes I have made along the way is getting caught up in something called “playing not to lose”. Playing not to lose is when you take all the actions that make you look busy, but really you are running on the hamster wheel and truly getting nowhere.

Playing not to lose, as T.Harv Eker notes, is like playing a game of hockey with six goalies. Playing not to lose is when you refuse to take risks because you do not trust that everything always works out. Playing not to lose is not allowing yourself to open up because you’ve become extremely comfortable in your current situation; even if you know it’s not sustainable.

Playing to win, on the other hand, is playing full out. Playing to win is allowing yourself to take risks, it’s allowing yourself to step into the unknown, it’s allowing yourself to do bold things while carrying a deep sense of knowing that every time you leap, a safety net will appear for you.

I once read a quote that read “it is hard to get an A while you’re scared of getting an F”.

This ties in perfectly to the theme of playing to win vs. playing not to lose. Ask yourself, at the end of the day, “what do I really have to be afraid of?”

The answer is nothing. The ego loves to come up with things be fearful of, reasons why we shouldn’t trust ourselves, reasons why we should avoid any and all potential pain while staying buried within our comfort zones.

As fun as it sounds, it is going to lead to a gnawing feeling of wanting to do more with your life, until you allow the inner voice to come through and do the thing that you really want to be doing.

Make today amazing, do something you wouldn’t normally do, open yourself to new and creative ways of living while trusting that every time you make a leap, you are fully and completely taken care of.

Alignment Club Podcast Episode #9: ‘Playing to Win vs. Playing not to Lose’ is available below:

10 Steps to Loving the Present Moment

NOW.

This is something I write in capital letters on the back of my hand every single morning. This was inspired by Eckhart Tolle’s book The Power of Now , which focuses heavily on maintaining a connection to the present moment. Life becomes exponentially easier when you can harness and leverage the present moment to eliminate, or at least lessen fear and worry.

Where do fear and worry come from?

Fear and worry are both a by-product of being way outside of the present moment. Fear and worry are the ego’s favourite emotions, as it loves to attempt to predict what is going to happen tomorrow, next month, next year, even a decade from now.

Fear and worry sneak up at the least convenient of times, rearing their ugly head when you are on the brink of pushing past your previous conditioning and limitations.

Fear and worry come from trying to predict the future from the present moment.

The antidote? Grounding yourself in the present moment

Right here, right now. This is the only thing that exists. The sound of the keyboard click (which is delightful, as I finally just replaced my previous dinosaur laptop), the sound of the refrigerator, the beauty of a completely silent household, this is all that is real.

The past? It happened, and there’s nothing you can do about it.

The future? It’s on its way, but we don’t know what circumstances are going to be lined up in or against our favour.

So why don’t we just enjoy the present moment? It’s because our minds are always somewhere else.

We’re in the shower, but our minds are already at work

We’re laying in bed, but our minds are still scrolling through our messy email inbox

We’re eating dinner, but our minds are on tomorrow’s past-due project and the consequences that will follow if it is not turned in on time.

In the present moment, there is no anxiety

How do you actually make the most of this present moment? This is an incredibly brief exercise I came up with. Simply note ten things around you that exist right now. Don’t overthink it, just make a list in your head or on paper of ten things that you can see in your proximity. Next, note one thing about it. This could be what it’s used for, what you like about it, what it reminds you of, etc.

My list would look something like this:

  1. The lamp. I like the way that the lamp hangs over the couch, because it angles itself perfectly for when I sit down to read in the morning. The light just aims right down on top of my book, but not so brightly that it creates glare on the pages.
  2. My running shoes. These shoes remind me that I was lucky enough to go to the gym today. Going to the gym is one of my favourite things to do, and these shoes remind me of the euphoric feeling that occurs when I begin running on the treadmill.
  3. My daughter’s highchair. There are some small specks of ink on the highchair, they remind me that tomorrow morning I am going to be sitting in this exact same chair, while she sits next to me and colours while it’s still dark out. I am lucky to be able to start my days like this.
  4. My bookshelf. God I love this bookshelf. When I look at it, and I see the titles of all of the books I am lucky enough to own, it reminds me of one thing: I can literally learn my way to becoming skilled at anything. I am thankful for this bookshelf because it reminds me that there was a time when I had absolutely no interest in developing myself or my own knowledge.
  5. The candle in front of me. This candle always reminds me of Christmas, my favourite time of the year.
  6. My notepad sitting next to me. On the page I am looking at sit a multitude of strange calculations I made today while assessing different stocks. When I look at this page, I am thankful that I have a passion for learning how to invest and trade my money, and I know my future self is thanking me.
  7. My water bottle. It’s actually a YETI water bottle that my wife gave me for my birthday. This makes me think how lucky I am to even have clean drinking water! When was the last time you took a moment and said “I am so frigging glad I can drink my tap water”. If you can’t drink your tap water, go to a house where you can drink the tap water and drink their tap water. Make sure you are allowed at this house before entering.
  8. The kettle. This reminds me that I just discovered a new green tea that is the absolute bomb, and I am going to start my day with one tomorrow.
  9. Our dining room chairs. These chairs are not anything fancy, but they remind me of the time that I put them together. My wife and I both had given up, assuming we were sent the wrong parts, only to realize after two hours that we were trying to attach one piece completely backwards. She went into our bedroom because she was frustrated, when she came out all the chairs were completely put together.
  10. Our baseboard heater. Kind of like clean drinking water, simply living in a house that has heat is something to be incredibly thankful for.

I don’t know how to describe the emotion that I feel right now, but if I had to put a finger on it, it would be appreciative.

You might not be sitting in a house with heat, or clean drinking water, but no matter what you can always find a way to shine a light on things. Even if things aren’t going well right now, look around and be thankful for what you currently do have, and everything that you’d miss if it were taken from you tomorrow.

When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change

Dr. Wayne W. Dyer

It is said that the state of gratitude and appreciation is one of the highest-vibration states you can be in? This feeling completely elevated the way that I feel, and all I want to do now is find more things in this present moment that I can be thankful for.

Even if you don’t like your life situation right now, don’t push against it. The harder you resist it, the more it will push back against you.

I choose to feel grounded in the present moment, I feel aligned with who I really am, I feel happy.

After all, happiness is the only thing we truly want.

Try this exercise right now, repeat this exercise once daily for at least 21 days, and watch your mood shift from lack to prosperity.

Stepping into Creativity

A giant step towards living a life of alignment is knowing how to tap into creative resources

There are few things better than a flood of creative emotion, a spark that arises from within that becomes so strong it is almost impossible to ignore. These are the moments to take massive action in the direction of this premonition, and often where great results are achieved.

However.

Creativity doesn’t always show itself at the snap of our fingers. Sometimes creativity is buried beneath a plethora of lower emotions such as fear, worry, anxiety, despair or envy.

When was the last time you were in complete fight-or-flight mode, and sat down thinking “wow, I have never felt so creative in my life!”

Being in survival mode is great when you are trying to quickly escape a predator, trying to get your head above water (literally), or making a fast decision to treat a sudden medical emergency. It is not so wonderful when you are sitting down to do creative work.

Moving from fear to creativity

Allowing yourselves to move from a fearful state into a relaxed, creative mode often starts with just that: allowing. Giving ourselves permission to move from a place of scarcity, fear and urgency into our most creative selves begins when we get over the idea that we have to constantly be pushing, working and creating resistance.

One thing you can do right now to move from fear into creativity is to stop trying to be creative! Get over the idea that you have to push to be creative, and go do something that brings you joy. As you move into a joyful, playful state you notice yourself start to relax. From a relaxed state, creativity becomes natural.

Listen below to the latest episode of the Alignment Club Podcast, “3 Exercises to Access Creativity:

Doing Things that Scare You

As your comfort zone begins to expand, bit by bit your life becomes filled with more excitement and joy

At one point or another, we all feel the feelings of stagnation, even boredom with our current circumstances. This doesn’t mean we don’t have plenty to be thankful for in any given moment, it just means that maybe we are starting to feel too much comfort or repetition in our daily actions.

What’s one way to break this pattern, create new results and condition yourself to become more resilient? Simply by doing things that freak you out a bit.

When we are (and we never should have valid reason to be) bored, it is often because we have dug ourselves so deep into our comfort zone that we don’t feel like doing anything outside of it.

If you are reading this thinking about how boring your day is going to be today, why don’t you go ask a random person if they want to go for coffee with you? Or email your boss telling him that you quit and aren’t going to be coming in tomorrow, or ever?

Surely these things would cure boredom, yes? Of course they would, but the reason we don’t do them is because we like taking action that is measurable and somewhat within our zone of safety.

This is the cool part:

What happens next after you decide to announce your business, ask the person on a date, apply for the new position, or book the plane ticket?

Not much, aside from a small, medium or large rush of excitement accompanied by a sense of “I can’t believe I just did that!”

The world keeps turning, maybe you pull your first client on the first day or someone messages you and says “I honestly don’t know why you waited so long, you’re so talented”. Maybe your boss replies with an absolute no, or an absolute yes to your request to work remotely for a year.

Regardless of the answer, who cares? You did the thing that scares you, and now you could go back to do it again without it feeling so terrifying.

Take a moment, ask yourself to come up with five things that would be so terrifying to get started on today, then pick one and simply go for it.

When you start using fear as a go-signal rather than a stop light, life becomes exhilarating.

Listen to the latest episode of the Alignment Club Podcast below:

Make a Powerful Choice to Align in 2020

The life, the career, the partner you want, they come available when you choose to stay open to possibility

As we enter the year of 2020, take a moment to look back on the previous decade. Who did you become? What did you choose to add into your life, or cut out of your life because it no longer served you? What were the highlights, and what would you have done differently if you were given the choice?

Our lives are a result of the thoughts we think and the actions we take. The actions we take are our own personal choices, actions that we are completely responsible for.

We all make choices that we wish we could go back and re-do, but the fun part about life is that there are no do-overs. Everything you are living with right now has been a result of your choices, take a moment to accept that they have been perfect, and that you are exactly where you need to be right now.

Make the choice to spend the next decade living for you

What does it feel like when you look at your current life situation? Does it feel light and fun, or does it feel heavy and stressful? How does work feel to you right now, are you doing something that you truly enjoy doing?

If the answer is no, that is perfect, because you are at least in a place now of knowing what you do not want for yourself. Abraham-Hicks states that knowing what you don’t want is a powerful part of discovering what it is that you do want.

If you aren’t living the life you truly want, then who’s life are you living? Are you staying at a job simply because you receive a bi-weekly pay check, even though it may not be the amount of money you want to be making? Are you staying in a position that pleases everybody but yourself?

Good news: If the people you’re living to please right now don’t support you when you choose to make a change in your life, then it is a reflection of their own judgements, not your flaws.

People that are supposed to be in your life, these people will support you no matter what. These people are the ones that want to see you grow and expand, not shrink back and contract into a smaller version of yourself.

Again, commit to living the next ten years in alignment with the life situation that you truly want for yourself

Life happens fast, nothing is to be taken for granted, time is the most valuable asset we have. Even if you lost all your money today, you can easily make it back. The same cannot be said about time.

Ask yourself, “what do I want the next ten years to look like? Who am I as I enter the year 2030? Where do I live, who are my friends, what does my work look like, how much fun am I having?”

Find this vision, create a plan of action, and love every moment along the way.

Leave Your Limitations in 2019

Allowing yourself to be responsible for making a quantum leap in the decade to come

As I write this, it is the final morning of this decade in which I can sit and write while watching the snow fly outside and enjoying the dead silence of the early morning.

As we transition into a new decade of life, a question that I have been asking myself a lot is “if I knew there were no chance of failure, what would I want the following decade to look like?”

I love the words of Anthony Robbins which read: “Most people overestimate what they can do in a year, and underestimate what they can do in 2 or 3 decades.”

The plague of short-term thinking withholds us from seeing a larger, broader, more expanded vision for what we want for our lives.

Constantly scrambling to make this month’s rent will keep someone stuck in a scarcity loop of merely trying to survive, a far cry from doing work as your most creative self.

If you want the next ten years to look better than the previous ten years, ask yourself “what do I need to obtain, and what must I let go of?”

Reverting back to Michael Beckwith’s “Life Visioning Process” (which I would recommend trying at least once before planning out your next ten years), knowing not just what you must become, but what you must be willing to release, is a vital step in creating the life you really want.

If you said “I want to 10x my income in the next year”, your brain will probably come up with some funny answers that will probably sound something like this:

  • “10x your income? You can’t even 2x your income! You don’t have the resources for that. Let’s be realistic, let’s keep things safe and familiar, the decade after this is the one we will really crush it!”
  • “Don’t even go there, imagine what your friends would think of you? You’d be left in the dust, plagued as a ‘dreamer'”
  • “Look at where you are right now, how on earth do you think you could increase your income ten fold? You can barely make rent! Let’s get back to our regular duties and way of doing things”

Understand that the primal part of your brain has one job and one job only: To keep you from dying.

This is why when you tell yourself you’d like to accomplish something, but refuse to take immediate, inspired, aligned action, you will often talk yourself out of it and return to your regular habitual actions.

The more we can keep things safe and familiar, the more the primal part of our brain thinks it’s doing the most amazing job in the world.

The only problem with this is that greatness does not take place from the safe and familiar

When you are faced with these self-imposed limitations, ask yourself one question: “Is the journey I am considering embarking on going to hurt me physically, and greatly increase my chances of death?”

If the answer is yes, then consider it again. If the answer is no, then push past the fear and know that it is just trying to help you stay alive. Every time you take bold, inspired action despite the fear, you stretch your comfort zone bit by bit.

The more your stretch your comfort zone bit by bit, the more confident you feel in accomplishing things that used to be hard.

The more confident you feel in accomplishing things that used to be hard, the more you learn to appreciate your own abilities, and ultimately appreciate yourself.

The more you appreciate your own abilities, and ultimately appreciate yourself, the happier you become.

The happier you become, the better your life is!

This is why it is vital to leave some of these self-imposed limitations in the current decade, promising yourself not to carry them through to 2020 and beyond.

We are always up against our most negative self. Training yourself to push past limitations that you created by buying into a belief of lack, that there is only so much to go around, is going to create rapid change in your life.

As you create rapid change in your life, others around you feel inspired to do the same.

Right now, no matter what (if you’re driving please don’t partake in this, also stop reading right now), grab a pen and a piece of paper.

Write out 5 things you want to accomplish in the next 10 years, but make sure all of them scare you at least a bit.

Never set goals within your own comfort zone, setting goals only from what you can see as “realistic” is a perfect recipe for change that takes place at the speed of molasses.

Push yourself, create new boundaries, do what it is that makes you happy on the inside, give more than you’ve ever given, and leave your limitations in 2019.

Lastly, enjoy the most recent instalment of the Alignment Club Podcast below:

Destroying Limiting Beliefs in 2020

What are the beliefs that are standing in the way of what you want?

Oftentimes when we begin to dig for what it is that’s holding us back, we search for the answer outside of ourselves. Aiming for a new career, a new job, a new friend group, a new this or that. While change is necessary in growing, oftentimes we carry the same beliefs to the new situation, which is not a long-term strategy for change.

So, how do we change the belief system that shapes our very existence?

First we must do the hard part, which is finding and acknowledging the beliefs that might be in the way of our successes.

Notice the world “acknowledge”, for when we push against a belief by becoming angry or frustrated about how we have never changed it, or how badly we wish it didn’t exist, the belief will continue to push back and create resistance.

Acknowledgment of a limiting belief is the first step to replacing it with a new, healthy belief system.

Example.

I held onto a belief for a long time that one’s “work” in life must consist of one thing and one thing only, and to expand over multiple industries would be taboo.

Is this true? No. In fact, limiting yourself to one business or occupation is just that: limiting yourself.

Because Bono was known for being the face of the band U2, does that mean that he shouldn’t have an investment fund? Of course not.

Is George Clooney wrong for having his own line of tequila? Also no.

Because Serena Williams is one of the world’s greatest tennis players, does that mean she should be banished from the fashion industry? Another no.

With the belief that we are confined to one type of business, one industry or one line of work, how likely are we to grow and expand into more of what we want to be?

The answer is not very likely.

It took me a long time to acknowledge the fact that this belief existed, but as soon as I did it was as though a veil had been lifted and I was able to see things in a whole new light. Is it totally okay to expand your work across multiple industries?

Of course.

Think for a second about a belief that might be limiting for you in some way. Here are a few examples to get your brain jogging:

  • “Hard work is the only path to success”
  • “I’m not qualified for it”
  • “I don’t know enough”
  • “I could never learn how to do that”
  • “Money is hard to come by”
  • “I am limited to the resources I can see right now”
  • “In order to make a good living, I must be working 40 hours per week”
  • “More hours = More money”
  • “I’m too old”
  • “I’m too young”
  • “People in my family or friend circle wouldn’t approve of me”
  • “Maybe I won’t be loved”
  • “I could never make a living doing something I love”
  • “Getting rich is for those people”

Think, think, think.

The good news? Once you acknowledge and replace the belief, you are moving quickly towards that which you desire.

To replace my limiting belief about having one line of work, I would repeatedly write down the following statement:

“The only limits that exist are those which I have created for myself”

This makes facing some of your beliefs humorous on some level.

In the year upcoming, focus on expanding your thinking and deleting these old, outdated beliefs that no longer serve you.

While you’re here, the latest episode of the Alignment Club Podcast covers this very subject. Make today spectacular: