Learning to consciously choose our thoughts, and what we want to deliberately create for our lives
Have you ever been in the middle of a down spiral in life, wondering exactly how you got there? In contrary, have you ever been enjoying a moment of such bliss that you couldn’t fathom how you could’ve possibly been met with a new level of fortune in such a short period of time?
As Stephen Covey noted in 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, these situations occur because everything is created twice.
Every famous painting, every New York Times bestseller, every #1 song, The Great Wall of China, the Empire State Building, the New York Stock Exchange, the money (or lack thereof) of money in your bank account, the Mona Lisa, the breakfast you ate this morning, this blog post, the house you live in, the fact that you chose that house to live in and not the one across the street, my daughter who is walking a piece of wrapping paper around the living room like it is a dog attached to a leash…
All of these things were created first by thought before they came to be a part of your experience.
It doesn’t mean that you were consciously choosing to focus on these things, they may have been a part of your subconscious thought loop that plays over and over in the background, even when you’re sleeping.
So… is this a blessing or a curse?
Now that you understand that you have the ability to consciously choose what you focus on, this realization can fall into the ‘blessing’ folder. Human beings are the only living things that have the ability to consciously choose what they focus on at any given time.
Are you having a hard time with money? Pay attention to what you focus on on a regular basis. Are your thoughts on the lack of money in your bank account? Not many people have ever obtained riches by constantly focusing on, complaining about and giving energy to a constant worry about their upcoming bills. Worrying about money and creating new, enjoyable ways to earn are exercising two very different parts of your mind.
What about your relationship? Do you focus on what you enjoy about the other person, and dismiss their flaws while loving the fact that they dismiss yours? Maybe it is your constant attempt to create a relationship that is keeping you from having the one that you want? There is nothing fun, playful or attractive about someone who is giving off the vibration of “please be with me, I am so lonely and need someone to make me feel okay. Please!”
When the down spiral of self-limiting thoughts begins, make the conscious choice to choose a better thought.
What if the next time you had an idea for a great product or service, you took immediate action and changed your life forever? What if you decided today that you will end bad habits and change the way you and your family live for good?
Condition this new habit of paying close attention to what you’re thinking about and focusing on in periods of low energy. Next time you create a future worst case scenario in your head, ask yourself “is this exactly how I’d like this situation to play out in real life?”
Everything is created twice. Be diligent in what you create in your mind as the more attention it receives, the closer it gets to becoming a reality.
On the topic of thinking, want to start thinking bigger? Listen to the most recent episode of the Alignment Club Podcast below: