Feeling Stuck? How to find your Ikigai

T. Harv Eker says “why don’t most people get what they want? Because most people don’t know what they want”. I can relate to this, I never understood why it seemed to be so important to have crystal-clear vision on where you wanted to go, I always figured that I didn’t have time to be planning my future with all of this work to do.

However, that was the exact outlook that kept me stuck, that kept me working and working and working without actually getting anywhere. With no target to aim for, it was easy to become a master in what Napoleon Hill refers to as drifting around with no real intention.

It’s easy to not end up where you want to be, when you don’t know where it is that you want to be. Your life purpose may change or shift with time, but having a macro vision today is a powerful first step in going from where you are to where you want to be.

So, how do we get started?

This exercise refers to a Japanese word called Ikigai, which essentially means reason for being. After being tired of running in circles for so long, this exercise showed me that my Ikigai is to impact the lives of people in a positive way through my actions, my spoken word and my written word. Now, all of my actions can align with this higher purpose, and I am able to quickly discern when something is not in alignment with my Ikigai.

Finding your Ikigai:

  • Grab 4 pieces of paper, title one “What I’m Good At”, the next “What I Love”, the next “What the World Needs”, and the last with “What I can be Paid for
  • Go in whichever order you feel most drawn to, and fill at least one side of each paper.
  • Upon completion of each page, take a moment to review every point written before beginning the next topic.
  • Once you have completed all four topics , review them again and highlight three of each that stand out to you on each page.
  • Take those three and narrow them down to one for each topic
  • Voila, you have determined your Ikigai

What next?

If you are ever having a difficult time making a decision, ask yourself “does this align with my Ikigai?” If the answer is yes, then go forward. If the answer is no, then simply delegate or outsource the task while you continue to hone in on your purposeful duties.

I decided that in order to make 2020 a breakthrough year, I am going to have to let go of some things. To let go of control on some duties that I have been scared to outsource lately, to let go of “what will people think of this?”, to let go of old beliefs and stories.

Having an Ikigai allows me to navigate through challenging decisions by always asking the question “is this in alignment with my definite purpose, or not?” The answer is always binary, and the decision can then be made.

I hope this was helpful for you, and I hope you do one thing today that simply focuses on living in alignment.

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